Whetten & Cameron (2012) defined developing management
skills as “communication that seeks to preserve or enhance a positive
relationship between you and another person while still addressing a problem,
giving negative feedback, or tackling a difficult issue”. As identified in the textbook, proper use of
supportive communication guidelines is a way to achieve this goal.
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Differentiate between coaching and
counseling situations - Counseling
is focused on addressing issues that are current and from the past. Many experts believe that counseling can be a
life-changing series of events. Through
supportive communication in the work environment, the goal is to change the
performance levels for the present and for the future. Coaching, on the other hand, focuses on the
present and future issues. In my work
environment, using supportive communication during coaching can be very
instrumental in improving performance results.
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Communicated congruently - For this situation, to
integrate supportive communication successfully, I must make sure my facial
expressions do not overrule my words.
Sometimes I know what the correct words are that needs to be said, but
deep down the words you want to say are different.
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Use descriptive statements -
To integrate supportive
communication successfully for this area, I have to be careful not to evaluate
certain issues before I have examined them, leading me to subconsciously use
descriptive statements. By using descriptive
statements during supportive communications, hopefully, I can learn to remove personal
bias out of my conversations.
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Use problem-oriented statements - The bottom line here is to make sure I use
problem-oriented statements rather than person-oriented statements during
conversations.
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Use validating statements/Use
specific statements - Facts,
facts, facts; this is something that I believe strongly in. With facts, I can make sure the topic is
focused and supports the conversation. The
focus should be more specific, meaning we should focus on what is causing the need
for supportive communication which can lead back to the root cause of the
problem.
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Use conjunctive statements that
flow smoothly -
I think it is very important to repeat parts of the conversation to ensure
everyone received and interpreted the same message and at the same time
acknowledge what was said by others. I
also believe pauses in the conversation are very important to allow time for
reflection of the statements in the conversation.
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Demonstrate supportive listening - I think everyone can use
improvement in this area. The listener
must be very careful with non-verbal actions such as body language; the
listener can misconstrue this as being inattentive to what they are
saying. I have learned are the most
important thing is maintaining eye contact during the conversation with the
speaker.
Supportive communication is a skill that can be very
beneficial to anyone serving in a leadership position that has to make key
decisions. By remaining focused on how I
can best utilize supportive communication, I feel I can continue improving my
communication and leadership skills.